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Thursday, February 26, 2009

2 wolves inside us...

” One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about battles that go on inside people. He said, ‘My son the battle is between two wolves inside us. One is evil. It is anger, envy, regret, greed, arrogance, resentment, false pride and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace , love, compassion, truth, humility, generosity and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a moment and then asked his grand father -

‘Which wolf wins ?’

The old Cherokee simply replied -

‘The one you feed !’

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Response: Reactive vs Proactive

There are two kinds of people:
Reactive - who are influenced easily by "social weather".
When people treat them good, they are well; but when people don't , they become defensive or protective. When weather is good, they are good; when weather is bad, it affects their attitude and performance.

Other kinds of people are Proactive- they carry their own weather with them. They do not blame circumstances, conditions for their state. Their response to external stimuli is value-based.

Eleanor Roosevelt observed, "No one can hurt you without your consent"
IN other words, Gandhi "They cannot take away our self-respect, if we we do not give it to them".
It is our willing permission, what happens to us, to our thoughts, to our choice.
Human nature tends to define one's misery in the name of circumstances or someone else's behavior.
"I have the power to control my response....I am free from any prison. No longer I am going to be controlled by the treatment of some person" keep yourself reminded about this.
It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.

Friday, January 30, 2009

Finding yourself

Some moments of life reflects your inner self...pop-up your present personality, you might not be aware of.

Today.....showed me a bit of my inner self....a shy me....a shy Ady!!

Well, I was excited about one expat meetup in Singapore, which came after a week holiday sitting at home. The gameplan was to start meet first at Harry's Pub, Boat Quay @7pm.

I decided to go for later part to avoid beer drinking session there...as I was more curious for CQ-Clarke Quay session.

Do u know why?? This is the reason...

Yes, this is the CQ night view thru my eyes...i luv this place!!

This is the only place, i happened to visit all alone manytimes...if i feel bore or low.

Just Sit at riverside steps or on our premier Bridge!!

the left side is the bridge heading toward CQ discs n pubs

a closer look...where we used to sit for long....a windy and cozy place!!

I guess this is THE one of the spots of Singapore, which would savor my memory...our festive occasions stopshop...new yr...diwali n all!!

I would need another blog as to write innumerable & diversified things about CQ.

But in this blog I am penning a CQ incidence revolving self-realisation of one of my personality traits.

In a crave to have meetup with new colourful ppl....other than my current boring rusty friends...i followed an expat meetup prog for one fine friday evening. As i mentioned, i went late & tried to catch the grp @Harry's around 9:30pm. They were just about to leave....infact they were on the doorsteps of Harry's, heading for the next planned destination marrakesh @clarke....yeh as it sounds its a restro-bar of our dear Hrithik Roshan's papa.....Rakesh Roshan.

Well till I didnt talked to anyone except Ngozi....one of the girl who organised this meetup....well she proclaimed herself to be from UK...but my CID mind broadcasted her to be a local **** whos trying to make money from these arrangements....well I have enuf evidences for this...cant share with u...sorry :P

Anyways, so far i had some discussion with her only...others seemed to be quite busy with themselves.The grp mostlycomprises of European..and i think UK...girls n guys. Adding to this herd, few Indians were also there who wr in search of smoke or hukka ...told me "they are not of my type"

I found myself a decent or literally shy person.....who cannot bang in b/t a self-indulged grp likeBarnie Stinsen (pls watch HIMYM to clinch more detials abt this character). After giving intro to a Nano tech researcher...Ravi...i found myself somewhat aloof....obviously so far i had no intro with rest.

But anyways i came out of restro jst to break that awkwardness or whtever it was.

I thgt i wont b able to mix up with such grp....found lil difficult to push myself n gave a stud intro...may b becoz i deprived the quota of fermented cerial/fruits from Harry's to feel comfortable with them. May be it was normal to act like that.....i think so!

Outside, after watching belly dance at Shiraz, went back to riverside...sat their for few minutes....before reaching to fav spot...the Bridge...respecting the ritual of getting a can frm 7Eleven....this time a nestcafe coffee. I didnt know that i wud rather enjoy there sitting alone...watching passersby....sometimes funny or i wud say their natural behaviors...it was cool with promising air, i wanted to stay there for long, but finally left to catch the last-minute MRT.

So..... thats it!!

I am a shy person....ok....i accept it. Need to get cool attitude to mixup with those extra-cool images...ahh...its good to get timely self-realisations. In between I thgt to walk back to marrakesh, and atleast said cool goodbye to all....but then i realised i got some topic for my blog...found some stuff from stockpile of my behavior...a retrospect on it....and a blog on it :)

Tomorrow 31stJan2009 , has also some lined-up events...

- a CityAlive event....street dance competition http://www.cityalive.sg ,and

- a Thai Disco KTV meet

....wht do u think..will i go there? Lets see!!

Will share more CQ pics later.

GudNite~~